Monday, September 17, 2012

On My Mind… 17 September 2012

Something has been on my mind since this past weekend, and I cannot seem to get it out of my mind.  It sprung from a comment made by an acquaintance at a braai that Mark and I went to…

The comment was “Women are full of S___” (see I censored it).

The general consensus was that men don’t understand women and women don’t understand men and that is the way it is so we need to live with it.  It seems like the human race was just looking for a partner who appears less full of nonsense than other options.

My thought is “Have you ever tried to understand the other half of the human race?”

How can you say that women are full of s___ if you haven’t tried to understand them?  And how can women say that men are impossible unless they have tried to understand them?

Mark and I chatted about this on the way home (very briefly), and actually we both had the same feeling when the topic of conversation headed this way.  It showed both of us how special our relationship is.  We are truly best friends.  We are able to talk about anything. There are things we have spoken about that we couldn’t open up about to anyone else.  Mark builds me up, and I like to believe I do the same for him.

I know a few couples who share what we share with each other, so we are in no way unique.  But I cannot believe how many people are willing to settle for less than a God written love story.

Something that I have learned in my 12 years of dating experience is that if God isn’t with you in the beginning of the relationship then it isn’t going to work when God becomes involved.  But if God is with you in the relationship from the beginning, if you build your relationship on him, THEN it is going to be a love story worth making a movie about…

I like to compare my relationship with Mark to the relationship in the Pixar Movie called UP! <- check it out  - Because honestly, that is where I see it going.

Now, normally, I wouldn’t reveal too much about my relationship online and openly like this, but I cannot see this ending any other way.

Going back to the original statement… I was truly offended by it. And his wife was sitting right next to him and took it like a gem, not saying a word.  All it made me wonder is what is going on in their home life?  I didn’t see any love between them, maybe it is a different kind of love that I am not familiar with, I don’t know.  Each to their own, but I wouldn’t be able to live with a man who can disrespect his queen in that way.

It’s really been bothering me.  I want everyone close to me to experience the wonderful God-written love story that I am experiencing.  And it kills me inside when I see people settling for less because they have taken matters into their own hands and are not trusting on God.

I cannot tell you how much Mark and I prayed, and how close we got to God before we started dating.  When we started seeing each other, it was truly because we were 100% sure it was what God intended to happen.  And the longer we are together, the more certain we are of this.

And my heart is aching for my friends who have not experienced something this wonderful.  I keep praying that they will find God’s will, and God’s way through their love stories.  But all I can do is pray, they need to seek God themselves, the same way I did.  They need to learn to trust God in the storms so he can bless them when they reach the safety of the harbour, then they can enjoy the sunshine on the beach just like I am.

Long post, but I have a lot on my mind tonight.

1 comment:

  1. Excellent post, Ashleigh. I completely agree with you that it is so important for God to be with you in your relationship from the start.

    If you are not with that special someone yet, make time every day to talk to God about him/her--what you want, what your hopes and dreams are with that person.

    If you are in a relationship with someone right now, but haven't talked to God about it yet, there is no time like the present to commune with Him and seek His advice and direction.

    Your relationship will be much deeper and richer when you make God a part of it.